Battle Of The Benefits

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Someone posed a question asking who benefits more from relationships, men or women?  And I have to say I made several attempts to answer the question. Believe it or not, I was really unable to come up with any concrete answers because men and women both get so much from a healthy, constructive, open minded and loving relationship. T possibilities are endless. Besides sex,intimacy (two totally different things by the way) money, dates etc., there are alot of great things that I see personally on both ends. I’m going to try my best not to be biased with my opinion and just state what I feel to be necessary for both parties highlight in relationships. Just speaking on the relationships I’ve been in aside from the current one, I’m going to have to say that the men for sure fgot way more out of me than I could’ve ever asked of them in return. Now I’m no angel. My mouth is smart and quick, I’m hard headed and up until about a year ago I was emotionally unavailable. Alot to deal with. So imagine the en I attracted loving me and then boom I hate them because they making me feel in ways I don’t want to so we’re both problematic, but won’t leave. Retarded right?

Harvard Health Publishing, the publication for Harward Law School, has done the extensive research. According to the Ivy Leagues, men are probably the most beneficial when it comes to relationships. Oddly enough, the more committed the relationship, the better for him. As much as men shy away from and turn their nose up at monogamy,I dont think it would change most of their minds if even if they found out it is literally good for their health to have a good woman by their side.I’m aware that it takes awhile to find that partner that’s on your level in the ways that you need them to be. In addition to being willing to wait on those less mature to catch up. It gets difficult, I know. A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. (HHP)

Further research shows that happily married men or those in a committed relationship are healthier overall, they live longer, show improved cancer outcomes, have better heart health, are less likely to engage in risky or unlawful behavior and even have stronger bones. Good women make their men want to do the right things to make it back home to them. We literally add years to the lives of our male partners. It isn’t surprising at all. And I’m more than positive that all the men reading this are shaking their heads and wholeheartedly disagreeing. Don’t shoot the messenger fellas, I’m just here to provide the facts.And the facts are, “Women maintain a larger support network. They are able to use other relationships for support. Wives don’t gain as much from marriage, on a psychosocial level, as a husband would.” (Dr.Timothy J. Loving, PhD, assistant professor in the University of Texas’ Department of Human Ecology. DeNoon.)

Committed relationships result in healthier lifestyles due to regular mealtimes & balanced diets. Shout out to the guys that cook for their partners as well. We appreciate you. Men tend to be very closed off and unfamiliar with being open and understanding that it’s ok to be emotional. They lack a trust that us women find in our moms, aunts, sisters and best friends. There is a constant source of social connection in a happy marriage. Friendship and commitment, confidence boost and overall understanding increases well being, happiness and boost self esteem.To often men aren’t in an arena where they believe they are worthy of good things happening to and for them. In these loving relationships there is an increase of optimism & trust. Including different outlook on women, love and relationships. One good woman changes the perception that 100 bad women left before her. This leads to more friendly & out going behavior when a good woman is present.Love has a wonderful way of strengthening immunity and providing faster recovery from sickness or disease.

For whatever reason, women tend to know all of the good stuff about taking care of the men we love.They are less likely to get sick bc we’re nurturing , loving and caring for their needs. In addition to saving them money. We (when I say we, I mean those of us who paid attention when Nana was in the kitchen) cook almost every night so that bachelor lifestyle of eating out because they either don’t want to cook or don’t know how isn’t an issue. They’re eating good food, making them healthier & gain good weight strengthening them all around the board.Resilience against life stresses. It’s easier for them to think their way throughtough things when they have a good woman by their side assisting & advising them on the better choices to make in all things that come with life. Contrary to very popular and masculine belief,men definetely get more from a relationship than women. I love my man from the top of his head to the ball of his feet, but I know I’m a good woman and the strength he has now that I’m beside him in this life wasn’t possible before me. I stand firm in that belief. He tells my family all the time “I knew she was what I needed in my life”. And I too feel the same about him.Best kept secrets of highly successful couples is that partners are focused on serving each other. Especially true for men who marry after 25.

Lao Tzu “ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage”

With Love,

Storie Stone

The Storie Will Be Televised

P.S. If you know me , you’re very aware of how much that cover photo means to my life!

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