Crookeds With the Straights

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When I was blessed with the opportunity to write for True Star I knew that it was bigger than me. I believed in my heart that God provided this platform for reasons I have yet to comprehend. As I’ve continued to write, it has not only provided literary clarity for others, but it has been therapeutic for me. For that, I will forever be indebted to True Star. Bless.

I find myself searching for inspiration in anything because I want every article to be as lit as the one before it. Without asking, my Gift from the Sun provides me with topics she’s sure I’d have a profound insight on and like always I’m grateful to have her. This particular time she sends me an article from a young brotha referring to himself as a millennial who is giving breakup advice. While reading the piece I’m intrigued, I’m nodding my head in agreement to most of his advice and definitely his artist choices.

The young man instructed those coming out of a bad time to make sure the break up is right for you. He stressed that social media will make things worse! Only cope to your CLOSE friends or family not associates. I think I’m a great judge of character and I haven’t been wrong thus far, so the people I tell my secrets, they remain secrets. He followed with letting us know it’s cool to explore, but don’t over indulge and refrain from spiteful behavior as it only hurts you and the chances of rekindling the flame. Don’t be a couch veggie was probably my fave. Especially as women it’s really easy to get down in the dumps and blame ourselves. He says to handle business and live life. Lastly, music helps.

So now I’m like well maybe I should write some advice myself, things are always different and probably more concise from a woman’s perspective. I instantly decided against that because that would be undermining his experience. Although, I may not have experienced a break up and felt the way that he did. I have been through one and I was very hurt. Very young and ignorant to who I was and what I wanted at the time, but still ridiculously hurt by the actions of who I thought would be my life partner. Instead of piggy backing off the gentlemen’s advice, I felt it would mull over better as a woman in a happy relationship, that is learning everyday, to simply respond to him. So here we are.

At the bottom of 2016, I had enough. I was coming to the realization that men only recognize the gem they had when she’s shining for someone else. I had been dealing with a young man that couldn’t make time for anything pertaining to me outside of his own pleasure. I got fed up with it rather quickly and the block and forget began.

Four full months later, he was in my Instagram DMs expressing his love and trying to see how he could make it right and when would I have time for him to show me he wants me and only me. Meanwhile, the entire time we were dealing all I wanted from him was time. But in his absence I came across My Love. I was scared. I was so scared and he knew it. Up until about 2 weeks ago, I was still scared. Loving him yes, but only about 55%. I felt like I was doing good, that was a little more than half and we were doing well I could play it close. That way if he hurts me, I wasnt fully invested anyway so I’ll shake back fast.

No. Wrong. I was holding back because of previous situations. When he reads this, he’ll understand, but he may feel some type of way. The reality is, I’m emotionally retarded and the gentleman hit the nail on the head when he said “…My generation reacts to the “now” rather than thinking about the future.” I was absolutely thinking of what I wasn;t going to deal with right now. The love thing and full commitment business is difficult. Anybody that tells you different is a liar. It makes you become comfortable with the thought of being uncomfortable.

Loves rips your comfort zone to shreds. The usual solitude that you’ve become accustomed to is out the window when you feel for someone and when you decide you want to share your world you must be prepared to do JUST that. Everything in your life must be prepared to shuffle, adapt and worked out to ensure benefit of your partner and vice versa. The list could continue, but we’d be talking all night.
My only advice in response to him is taking your own advice is always the hardest thing to do. But whatever you do following that breakup, get up, dust off and love again. Freely. Everyone is not the same and learn to take the crookeds with the straights.

With Love,

Storie Stone

The Storie Will Be Televised

B R I L L I A N T. Successful Project Product. Proud Black Sheep and all around Thoroughbred. 26. Planted in Chicago,IL | Blossomed in Atlanta, GA

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