Lose Yourself

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There will come a time in every relationship where you begin to see twos. No more you and them, it’ll always be “y’all” and it may get on your nerves. When you find yourself at that point in life what do you? At what time is it appropriate to have that conversation?

Asking for myself.

Its so easy to get caught up in the routine, mundane life of get up go to work, come home cook dinner, take care of this person and that person and go to bed. When you do you have time for you? These are questions we must ask ourselves as we are in the thick of cuffing season. If you’re anything like me, your probably over it and kind of want some “me time”. That’s felt so foreign in life for many partners that when the time arrives they are genuinely lost, they have become accustomed to their time being someone else’s.

We must be honest with ourselves when we consider these roles in committed relationships. They don’t just stop because we may want them to and it’s kind of unfair to just walk away. So what do you? I know I get into a mood sometimes and really get to a point where I feel closed in and seriously want out. Of course most will say, well that’s ok and it’s just a phase. But what if it isn’t? What if some of us are going against who we really are to be what we think is the social norm?

Y’all know how I love #BlackTwitter and I came across a thread today of a young lady doing very well for herself business wise really speaking to the inner me. The beginning tweet read as follows: “I like being by myself to the point where I genuinely wonder if I’d be okay married because I really be needing my space” (@ImTheReasonWhy) I really felt her on that. But she took the cake when she said “I completely embody the saying “My alone feels so good I’ll only enjoy you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.” I feel that to my core. Because there were several men who’s company I yearned for and never got it. Since I didn’t, I completely love and prefer being alone”

I honestly, truly couldn’t agree more and that sticks with me to this day. Now that I’ve lived with a man and did everything with someone else I know that if this doesn’t work out, this is the very LAST time I’ll ever attempt it. Waking up and going to sleep to him is cool, but it ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. Not that I care for him any less, just that I’d prefer to be alone when I want to and be bothered the same. Maybe that’s the Sagittarius in me. I’m a big dreamer and somewhat of a nomad. Not really to big on strong holds or anything that would “settle” me so to speak.

Maybe I have a negative outlook, but I kind of feel like relationships make you complacent. You get so used to what’s happening there, you lose who you were before that union came about. Please don’t think this is directed specifically toward women because it isn’t. I’m sure men go through these same sentiments. They probably just don’t express them the same or often enough to pick up on. Im making it my business to continue to put me and my dreams first. People change or even begin to show you who they really are which is even more convenient , money comes and goes. But your dreams and what you accomplish because of them will always remain.

Take it personal.

With Love,

Storie Stone

The Storie Will Be Televised

 

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26. Planted in Chicago,IL | Blossomed in Atlanta, GA

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