What Type of Daddy Issue Girl Are You?

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Father’s Day recently passed and for some of you it was a wonderful day with your dad and for others it was a constant reminder of how their father is non-existent. A father-daughter relationship is key to a woman’s happiness and life. Who doesn’t want to be daddy’s girl? Daddy is supposed to be the guy who stands up for you, protects you, and looks at you like you’re his perfect pretty princess. Unfortunately, not all of us end up with the fairytale father we wish for, nor do we have a perfect father-daughter relationship to remember fondly. The way that a girl sees her value, and the way that men should treat her, all stem from the notions that she got in her father-daughter relationship. Just as important as the way that her parent’s relationship will forever reflect her future ones, the way that her dad made her feel is likely to be transferred to every guy that she meets.

The three common types of relationships are daddy’s girls, the girl who was abandoned, and the girl with the critical relationship. It all dawned on me when I saw the types of guys these girls were dating or were attracted to. From reading each description, you should be able to identify yourself with one of these girls.

  1. The Daddy’s Girl. Everyone has heard of this type of father-daughter relationship. When looking for a mate, you generally lean towards the guys who are typically older than you, have a lot going for themselves, have some type of independency (a car and/or job), and your subconscious craves someone who is protective and adores you. This can be an issue in the long run because you’ll never think a guy is good enough for you and make him feel he’ll never live up to the standards of your dad.
  2. The Abandoned Girl. This type of girl is always looking for reassurance of love and affection and are afraid to be alone. When dating someone you constantly compare yourself to his past girlfriends. You may feel insecure with your boo and constantly try to find things about him that will convince you that he will leave you. This fear of being alone or not feeling good enough will only push him away and make it harder for you to find your own identity.
  3. The Critical Girl. This type of girl has a life that is a roller coaster. You feel very anxious and fearful all the time. You grew up thinking nothing you did was very right or good enough to please your dad. It all reflects in your relationships when you’re trying to constantly win the love of a man who points out your downfalls or who will boost your ego, even when you think he isn’t telling the truth.

I’m a girl that grew up with daddy issues too. It was all apparent to me when I started dating. I was once the abandoned girl but through the years I’ve worked through my personal trauma and now I’m the happiest I can be. For any girl who ever felt like any of those three girls you’re not alone. Getting over the hurt caused by the man who is supposed to be your “first boyfriend” can take a while, but there’s beauty in forgiveness. Being a daddy’s girl isn’t everyone’s life, but regardless of your father-daughter relationship, remember, you are beautiful, you are worthy of love, and never change who you are for ANYBODY.

By BreNae Scott, Senior, Alcorn State University

IG: @im_alikamarie

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